Is This Narcissistic Abuse? — Free Quiz by Danish Bashir

When you bring up something that hurt you, does your partner deny it happened, twist the story, or make you feel like you're overreacting?

No, they listen and try to understand my perspective

Sometimes, but I'm not sure if it's intentional

Yes, I often end up questioning my own memory

Constantly; I no longer trust my own perception of events

When there is a conflict between you, does it almost always end up being your fault, even when it clearly was not?

No, we both take responsibility when things go wrong

Occasionally, though they do apologize sometimes

Yes, somehow everything gets turned around onto me

Always; I have learned to just apologize to keep the peace

Does your partner go through extreme phases, treating you like you are everything one moment and then becoming cold, distant, or cruel the next?

No, they are fairly consistent in how they treat me

There are mood swings, but nothing extreme

Yes, the highs are incredible but the lows are devastating

I live in constant anxiety waiting for the next shift

When you are going through something painful or difficult, does your partner genuinely try to understand, or do they dismiss, minimize, or redirect attention to themselves?

They are supportive and empathetic when I need them

They try, but it often feels shallow or performative

My pain usually gets dismissed or turned into their problem

I have stopped sharing my feelings because it always makes things worse

Do you feel like you have to constantly explain yourself, ask for permission, or walk on eggshells just to keep the peace at home?

No, I feel free to be myself in this relationship

Sometimes I hold back to avoid an argument

Yes, I carefully plan what I say and how I say it

I feel like I am living in a minefield every single day

Has your partner caused distance between you and your friends, family, or support system, whether directly or through subtle manipulation?

No, they encourage my relationships with others

They occasionally make comments about people close to me

I have drifted from people I love since being with them

I feel completely isolated; they are all I have left

Do you feel like you have lost yourself, like you no longer know who you are or what you want outside of this relationship?

No, I have a strong sense of who I am

I have moments where I feel unsure of myself

I barely recognize the person I have become

I feel completely empty; I exist only for this relationship

Can you express your honest thoughts and feelings without fear of punishment, rage, the silent treatment, or some form of emotional retaliation?

Yes, we communicate openly even when we disagree

It depends on their mood; sometimes it is safe, sometimes not

I have learned to keep most of my real thoughts to myself

Speaking honestly always leads to punishment or days of silence

Does your partner hold you to standards they do not follow themselves, getting angry at things they regularly do to you?

No, we hold each other to the same standards

There is some inconsistency, but it is not extreme

Yes, the rules only seem to apply to me, never to them

I have given up pointing out the double standards; it only leads to rage

Deep down, does something feel fundamentally wrong in this relationship, even if you cannot fully explain it or others do not see it?

No, I feel at peace with how things are

Something feels off, but I keep telling myself it will improve

Yes, I feel it in my body; anxiety, dread, a knot in my stomach

I feel trapped, and the thought of staying forever terrifies me

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